10 powerful ways to Deal with Anger

1. When you are angry say nothing

If we speak in anger we will definitely aggravate and quite likely hurt the feelings of others. If we speak in anger we will find that people respond in kind, creating a spiral of negative anger. If we can remain outwardly silent it gives time for the emotion of anger to leave us.

2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.

Some people may unfortunately take a malicious pleasure in trying to make you made. However, if we can feel indifferent to them and their words; if we feel it is beyond our dignity to even  acknowledge them, then their words and actions will have no effect. Also, if we do not respond in any way to their provocation, they will lose interest and not bother us in the future.

3. Use reason to stop anger

When we feel anger coming to the fore try to take a step back and say to yourself " This anger will not help me in any way. This anger will make the situation worse." Even if part of us remains angry our inner voice is helping us to distance our self from the emotion of anger.

4. Look kindly upon others.

Another visualisation, suggested by spiritual teacher Paramhansa Yogananda, is to see the anger-rousing agent as a 5 years old child. If you think of the other person as a helpless 5 year old child your compassion and forgiveness will come to the fore. If your baby brother accidentally stabbed you, you would not feel anger and desire to retaliate. Instead, you would just feel he is just too young to know any better. This exercise may be particularly useful for close members of the family who at times evoke your anger.

5. Value peace more than anger.

If we value of mind as our most important treasure we will not anger to remain in our system.

6. Always try to understand those who are cross.

Don't worry about feeling the need to defend yourself from their criticisms. If you can remain detached and calm they may begin to feel guilty about venting their anger on you. Inspired by your example of calmness, they will seek subconsciously to do the same.

7. Focus on something completely different.

Suppose someone has done something to make you angry. Think about something which will make you happy. The best antidote to negativity is to focus on the positive.

8. Breathe deeply.

The simple act of breathing deeply will help considerably with removing anger.

9. Medication

Practice meditation regularly to bring your inner peace to the fore. If we can have an inner access to our inner peace we will be able to draw upon this during testing times.

10.  Smile  

When we smile we defuse many negative situations. To smile is offer goodwill to others. Smiling costs nothing but can effectively defuse tense situations.

TIME MANAGEMENT PRINCIPLES

As a student, there are some basic Principles of Time 

Management that you can apply.

1. Identify "Best Time" for Studying: Everyone has high and low periods of attention and concentration. Are you a "morning person" or a "night person". Use your power times to study; use the down times for routines such as laundry and errands.
2. Study Difficult Subjects First: When you are fresh, you can process information more quickly and save time as a result.
3. Use Distributed Learning and Practice: Study in shorter time blocks with short breaks between. This keeps you from getting fatigued and "wasting time." This type of studying is efficient because while you are taking a break, the brain is still processing the information.
4. Make Sure the Surroundings are Conducive to Studying: This will allow you to reduce distractions which can "waste time." If there are times in the residence halls or your apartment when you know there will be noise and commotion, use that time for mindless tasks.
5. Make Room for Entertainment and Relaxation: College is more than studying. You need to have a social life, yet, you need to have a balance in your life.
6. Make Sure you Have Time to Sleep and Eat Properly: Sleep is often an activity (or lack of activity) that students use as their time management "bank." When they need a few extra hours for studying or socializing, they withdraw a few hours of sleep. Doing this makes the time they spend studying less effective because they will need a couple hours of clock time to get an hour of productive time. This is not a good way to manage yourself in relation to time.
7. Try to Combine Activities: Use the "Twofer" concept. If you are spending time at the Laundromat, bring your psychology notes to study. If you are waiting in line for tickets to the REM concert, bring your biology flashcards to memorize.

Developing Effective Study Habits

Do you practice effective study habits? Do you actually get on with your work when you want to?

I'm sure most of student have face this problem seriously. We always keep our assignment until the last day we want to submit it. this problem can't be solve until we change our time of study. 

I have tips that can we share together to change ourselves to become good student by developing effective study habits. Whenever you get given work, do it tomorrow. Whatever task, project or assignment you're given, start working on it the day after you get it. Don't worry about how much time you spend on it. Just make sure you actually do something daily. The important thing is to get the started on it and keep working on it until it's done.

For example, imagine it's is Tuesday, and you are given an assignment with a deadline three weeks later..

• Tuesday. Do nothing on it
• Wednesday. Start working on it
• Thursday. Continue it

...then , keep working at it every day you can until you finish it.

Why does this work?

Creating a buffer between receiving work and doing means you’ll enjoy these benefits:

• Thinking time. Starting it the day after you’re given it gives you some breathing space. You know when you will start, giving you a day to mentally prepare yourself to get on with your work.
• Less need for willpower. All you need to do is start each day. Stop after an hour if you want. Or 30 minutes, even five if you feel like it. Doing it daily is the habit that means you can work for as long as you want to.
• Greater satisfaction. Getting things done is a great feeling. Finishing is obviously the ultimate destination, but simply doing brings a degree of satisfaction. The knowledge that you’ve made progress towards completion is its own reward.
• Less last minute stress. Unlike many of your peers, you avoid, or at least massively reduce, the amount you have to do the day before it’s due.

Tempted to start the day you get it? Before you do, think about what won’t get done today if you do. If you’ve got nothing else to do, go for it. But ‘Do It Tomorrow’ is as habitual as you make it.

This can help you to get rid with many assignment and settle it on time perfectly.

Developing good study habits mean you use your time well. Time, of course, is the most valuable resources you have; but it’s so easy to waste. This is about developing good study habits, not skills. Skills make you better at studying; effective study habits make you better for studying.

There are 18 keys to successful study:

1. Best time of day.

When do you work best? Are you an early bird, night owl, or something in between? Find your rhythm, then plan to study at your peak production time.

2. Plan.

The next day, week, term or semester. Whatever time  you use, time you invest to plan will pay for itself many times over.

3. Ask questions.

4. Get and stay organized.

Once you learn how to get organized, make sure you know to stay organized.

5. Lower your resistant.

Learn how to overcoming procrastination daily can make all the difference.

6. Practice the law of the farm.

Stephen Covey suggests that it's better to study in the right time rather than cramming it all at the last minutes. A farmer can't cram with crops. It has to be done in it's season.

7. Manage your time-waster

Give yourself permission to waste time. Make it a priority. This reduces the thrill of what you shouldn't be doing.

8. Look at your goal.

Your dream grade, posted on the wall next to your bed or computer means you'll see and think about it daily.

9. Do the worst first.

First thing is often the best time to do this. It limits the effect of the task on your mind if you do it early.

10. Isolate yourself.

Turn your communications off when you study. Even better, put them out of site.

11. Finish wanting more.

12. Time box it.

Give a task a block or 'box' of time to get it started. Enough time boxed sessions will mean you finish it. Learns how to avoid procrastination by time boxing.

13. Use capture tools.

Better time management for student with good study habits depends on time management tools that are simple to use, easy to access and consistently work as a way to capture information that would otherwise be lost.

14. Drink water.

Keep a bottle nearby because good study habits depend on hydration.

15. Add on.

Tack on a pre-study task to prepare yourself. The more your senses engage with this, the more effective it is.

16. Sell it to yourself.

The see-your-goal is a simple way to start the process of marketing to yourself. Visual images, such as posters, have an impact, as does your language.

17. Practice selective listening.

When you do listening, do so really well. Use whatever capture tool you like-just do it.

18. Do something for someone else.

Help someone else and you reinforced your own understanding.

If you do all these keys, you can be a better student and can be love by your lecturer and friend with colorful result.

ACHIEVING GOALS – 

HAVE YOU TAKE YOUR STEP EVERY DAY ?

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time..?

Rob O’Loughlin

I’m a strong believer in the power of consistency. Doing something small consistently can make a big difference in the long term. Your goal might seem big like an elephant, but if you take your one step every day you will eventually achieve it.

The problem, of course, is it’s not easy to be consistent. It’s easier to just follow your mood and do things that you feel like doing. But consistency is essential to achieve big goals so you should learn to put it into practice.

Here’s how:

1. Set a goal you believe in

You need a powerful source of motivation to stay consistent in the long term. Because of that, your goal should be something you believe in, something you really care about. Otherwise you won’t be able to keep at it for months or even years.

2. Allocate time for it every day

Don’t just wait until you have time. Instead, make the time. I usually allocate a minimum amount of time to work on my goal daily. You may want to take time off on the weekend and some other occasions, but other than that thrive to meet your commitment.

3. Use the time for real work

What’s the use of allocating time if you use most of it to procrastinate? So make sure that you do real work during it. For this purpose, I use a timer. Whenever I stop working in the middle of a session, I stop the timer. Then I restart it when I get back to work. This way I know that I’ve spent the whole allocated time for real work.

4. Take the shortest path

Allocating time for your goal won’t help if it doesn’t take you closer to your goal. A common pitfall is using the time for things that aren’t really necessary.

To avoid this, always keep your goal in mind and build the desire to achieve it as soon as possible. Setting a tight deadline is a good way to help you stay focused.

What do you think? How do you achieve big goals?

Too Much Learning Can Paralyze You

Is it possible to learn too much? With so much information that's available and accessible with just a click of a button, it's impossible for any one person to know everything there is to know. While this is true, there is still such a thing as learning too much, to the point where you get paralyzed in terms of taking action. 

Have you ever wanted to achieve a goal and ended up doing tons of research on how to achieve the goal? As you learned more and more, it felt like you knew less and less because when you learned a new concept or strategy, you found that there was a lot more to know about those things.

Often times, people will get stuck in this trap of needing to gather more and more information. There's nothing wrong with learning a lot, but when you let learning get in the way of doing, you will never get going. When you never get going, you still never start having the things you want in life.

A better way to go about achieving a goal is to gather some information and immediately start taking action on what information you have gathered. I realize that many times you will feel unprepared, and that's okay. The best way to learn besides having someone who's done what you want to do show you how to do it is to take action and learn from the results you get from those actions. 

When you are able to get past that initial fear of not being perfect and just take the first step, you will be further ahead than the majority of people who are still in the preparation stage. It's good to be prepared especially in situations such as a pilot and crew making sure the plane is ready to take off, but over preparation in trying to reach a goal won't get you results. Realize that you already have what it takes to get started on your goals. The knowledge and skills you will need will be picked up along the way. 

If a baby wanted to learn how to walk, it will never be able to do it by sitting there and analyzing how to walk. The best way for a baby to walk is to actually get up off its behind and start walking. Sure it may fall, but with every fall, it will learn what is working and what is not and adjust to it. By doing this over and over, it will eventually learn to walk. This is the approach you want to take when you want to achieve your goals as well. It works. Look around you, almost everyone knows how to walk. Learning more is great but if all you're doing is learning and not taking action, it's time to change that. Just take the first step!

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How To Avoid A Fashion Victim


FASHION....the favorite word among women. Men also like but not at all. Many people care about their fashion but different excitation I though. I also not very fashionable and just have simple appearance. For those who very like fashion, find out yourselves either you are include the fashion victim or not. Beware if you in this group. It will affected your life ever after. If you want to become economically person but still want to be a fashion person you can do so by follow this steps:

1. Decide if you're wasting too much money on fads, by assessing the last five items you're purchased.


2. If three or more are touted as the season's "must-haves", you're in danger of being a fashion victim.


3. Examine your closet to see if more than half of your wardrobe is already out of style according to your favorite fashion sources.


4. Now, ask yourself if you are buying fashion fads because you really like them or you use them like a fashion security blanket.


5. If you decided you always buy all of the fads because you really like them. you're not telling the truth so you might as well just stop here.


6. If you decide you use fads as a fashion security blanket, follow the next steps.


7. Never wear more than two trends together if possible.


8. Stop referring to your clothing by designer ( the Gucci jacket, the Dior bag ) and just call them by the item name.


9. Before buying your next designer item, ask yourself if you'd like the item if it didn't have the chi chi logo: if yes, then buy it.


10. Never, ever wear your sunglasses indoors.

Are You Always In Tension??


What make you always in this situation. Is it because of a lots of assignment, misunderstood learning in class, tension with straight lecturer and etc. All of these will make us easy  to become angry and border us from doing our beloved activities. But don't worry...these matter we can settle it by follow these ten tips for managing conflict, tension and anger.

1. Share negative emotions only in person or on the phone. 

Emails, answering machine messages, and notes are too impersonal for the delicate nature of negative words. What feels like a bomb on paper feel like a feather when delivered in person.

2. Pepper your responses with the phrase, "I understand".
This phrase will support your goals when the tension is high and you need to find common ground to form compromises or agreements with the other party.

3. Take notice when you feel threatened by what someone is saying to you. 
Resist the temptation to defend yourself or to "shut down" the other person's communication. It will take this kind of discipline to become an open, trusting communicator.


4. Practice making requests of others when you are angry.
It is often much more useful to make a request than to share your anger. For example, if the babysitter is driving you crazy by leaving dirty dishes in the sink, it is better to make a request of them than to let your anger leak out in other ways such as by becoming more distant.


5. Try repeating the exact words that someone is saying to you when they are in a lot of emotional pain or when you disagree with them completely. 
This mirroring technique can keep both the speaker and the listener 'centered' in a difficult conversation, especially when the attitude of the person doing the mirroring is to gain understanding of a different point of view.


6. Take responsibility for your feeling to avoid blaming others.
Notice when 'blameshifting' begins to leak into your speech. "I feel angry when you are twenty minutes late and you don't call me" is much better than, "You make me so mad by being late".


7. Learn to listen to the two sides of the conflict that you are in as if you were the mediator or the counselor.
If you can listen and respond in this way you will bring peace and solutions to the conflict more quickly.


8. Take a playful attitude towards developing the skill of emotional self-control in high conflict situations.
You could view maintaining self-control in a tense, angry conversation as an athletic feat. You could also view developing this skill as similar to working out at the gym with weights- the more that you use your self-control muscle the bigger it will grow and the easier it will be to remain calm when tension is great.


9. Wait a few days to cool down emotionally when a situation makes you feel wild with intense feelings, such as rage.
As time passes, you will be able to be more objective about the issues and to sort
 out the situation more clearly.


10. Make a decision to speak with decorum whenever you are angry or frustrated.
If you give yourself permission to blow up, people will not feel safe around you. They will feel that you are not predictable and will carry 'shield' when they are near you. The fear and walls of others will not support your goals for success in relationships or at work.